1st Week :
First of all start by making eye contact with someone you find attractive (who you don't know) every day for a week. You can do this in any where the elevator in your office building, at the grocery store, in restaurants etc. It's not important where you do this exercise, Its only how comfort you are in making the eye contact.
Week #2:
The following week, Give a small smile at least once. Chances are good that you'll get a smile back. It doesn't have to go any further than that (don't expect him/her to ask for your cell number). This is simply an exercise in getting comfortable engaging partners.
Week #3:
During the third week of this exercise, make eye contact, smile, and make small talk with at least once. If the idea of small talk gets you tongue-tied, relax. Start simply and slowly. Remember, this doesn't have to be rocket science or international political issues or inflations. You don't have to think of the wittiest conversation-starter ever. The goal is to just start or to get the ball to roll.
Eg: Hi. (Seriously, that counts!)
How are you?
How's your day going?
I like your shoes/tie/suit/dress. From where you bought it?
Once you've opened up the conversation, don't look away. Maintain eye contact, smile, and wait for his/her response. If it invites additional conversation, great! If not, don’t give up. The main thing needed for this is patience. You can continue the same again. If for some reason, the object of your attention is rude or dismissive, don't take it serious.
Rejection is part of this process.
The point of this exercise is to show or make the partner to think that there is a need of a partner like her/him in your everyday life. They may not always be interested, they may not always be available, but by getting into the practice of noticing and acknowledging them, you're more likely to spot the ones who are interested and available when they present themselves to you.
If your routine goes something like this: home, work, lunch, home. Then you've to think a lot and urgently want to change the routine. At least once a week from now on, break with routine. Suggested activities include:
1. Stop by the bookstore after work and browse a topic of interest while keeping your eye out for any cuties.
2. You can go out for a cup of tea wit ur colleagues at a local hotspot.
3. You can go for morning or evening walk in a park or any place where more number of gals/guys used to come.
Remember, the goal is not necessarily to score a date, but to get you out of your monotonous routine that may be keeping you from meeting potential partners. The more you put yourself in rich areas and get comfortable talking to strangers, the better.
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